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Overcome Fear of Vulnerability to Strengthen Your Relationship

Overcome Fear of Vulnerability to Strengthen Relationship

Couples Counseling Can Help You Create Deeper Bonds

Overcome Fear of Vulnerability to Strengthen Your Relationship.
In the intricate dance of relationships, vulnerability emerges as a powerful force that can either strengthen or weaken the bonds between couples. While many fear exposing their true selves to their partners, embracing vulnerability can be a transformative journey that leads to a deeper, more intimate connection. In this exploration, we’ll delve into the fears that often accompany sharing vulnerability in a relationship and the myriad benefits that await those brave enough to take the plunge. We also share how couples counseling can help you overcome fear of vulnerability and create deeper bonds.

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Do We Need Couples Therapy?

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Do we need couples therapy? Every relationship faces its own set of challenges, and it’s perfectly normal to encounter rough patches along the journey of love. In fact, couples who seek marriage counseling come from various walks of life, each with their unique concerns and goals. Whether you’re feeling like roommates or facing more serious marital problems, the decision to start couples therapy can be a vital step towards rebuilding and strengthening your connection. In this blog post, we’ll explore the signs that indicate it might be time to consider couples therapy and why it can be one of the most important investments you make in your relationship.

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Everything You Need to Know Before Starting Marriage Counseling

Everything You Need to Know Before Starting Marriage Counseling

What do you need to know before starting marriage counseling? In this post, we’ll answer the common questions that couples have before starting marriage counseling. We’ll also share essential insights that marriage counselors wish their clients knew from the beginning of couples therapy. 

It’s normal to feel anxious about couples counseling

In my 20+ years as a couples therapist, I’ve never met a couple that didn’t feel anxious about getting started. This is your most important relationship after all, and so much of your happiness and your future depends on it! It’s only natural that you need some reassurance and guidance before starting marriage counseling.

Here’s an outline of the topics we’ll cover in this post:

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Generosity, Abundance, & Thanksgiving

Where Does Abundance Come From?

Abundance in our relationships, our communities, and our world comes from generosity.

What do you have to give? How could your relationships change if you generously gave others the benefit of the doubt? What would happen if you authentically and generously gave kindness and compassion to those around you? How could giving your courage, your humor, or your understanding make the world a better place?

As we each give from a place of generosity, our relationships become more full and more fulfilling. At Colorado Counseling Center, we help couples and individuals rediscover the abundance that comes through generously sharing with each other.

Happy Thanksgiving!

When Anxiety Trips You Up

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I remember it like it was yesterday; my high school graduation. Hundreds of eyes were watching as each student received his or her diploma. My heart raced. I felt nervous about just walking in front of such a large crowd. I joked about tripping during the ceremony, hoping that would assure that it would NOT happen. The walking up part was successful.  However, as fate would have it, the climb down the stairs from the stage proved to be my “moment.” I stumbled and fell—right into the sure hands of my principal.  

Normally, I know how to walk and use stairs, but the anxious part of my brain switched “on,” causing me to feel a sense of alarm and panic just long enough to forever mark me as “the girl who tripped during graduation.” And, here I am years later, just fine and even able to laugh about it (mostly).

Most of us function with some amount of anxiety.  In specific situations, a feeling of panic may even be necessary for survival.  For example, if you were to see a bear while on a walk, the “flight or fight” response that bypasses rational thought to avoid any further exchange with that bear can be a very good thing!    

Anxiety as an Inhibitory Emotion

Anxiety can be vital to survival, but many times it is just uncomfortable and miserable and prevents us from participating in life the way that we want.  Continue reading

3 Steps to Banishing Your Inner Critic

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When it comes to attaining our biggest dreams, we often tend to stand in our own way. Many of us lack the confidence that we believe we need in order to even begin taking steps to reach a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. 

The Imposter Syndrome

And even when we do begin to take risks and obtain our goals, many of us have what is called “imposter syndrome”—the feeling that we are somehow incompetent at what we do and have managed to fool everyone into getting to the position or role we are in; that we are basically a fraud. 

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How Do You Cope?

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Do Other People Bug You?

Have you ever been angry at someone because it seemed like they were spending WAAYYY too much time with a particular thing or situation? We’re so easily frustrated by other’s coping strategies. Here are some examples: a wife who’s angry with her husband for spending too much time at work. A husband who is angry with his wife because she’s on her phone ALL the time. A son who plays video games every waking moment of the day? Or how about a daughter who hangs out with friends as much as possible, rarely spending time around the house and family?  Perhaps your husband is spending A LOT of time watching sports on TV. Or maybe your wife seems to be spending way too much time exercising and going to the gym.

It’s easy to get judgmental about the behavior of others—but judging others rarely results in change, and often results in damaging our relationships.

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About Kevin Hales

Kevin Hales, MA, LPC offers marriage counseling as well as individual counseling for adults and teens at Colorado Counseling Center. Kevin’s clients find that he wholeheartedly devotes himself to helping them heal and move forward in life. To learn more about Kevin's counseling specialties, please visit coloradocounselingcenter.com/kevin-hales/

Does Marriage Counseling Work?

Does Marriage Counseling Work?

Is Marriage Counseling Worth the Effort?

By Sarah Miller

Does marriage counseling work? You may wonder if it’s worth the effort, feeling hesitant to hope there’s a way to regain the closeness you once had. All too often, people who come to couples counseling say “this has been years in the making” or “we’ve known we needed this for a long time.” In the height of disconnection, during arguments or long stints of silence, helplessness sets in and your fears emerge: Can couples counseling even help us?

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What is Wrong with You!?!

What is Wrong with You!?!

by Kevin Hales, LPC

“What’s wrong with you?”

Has anyone ever said this to you? Have you ever said this to anyone you know?

We typically make this statement when something happens that goes beyond our current logical understanding and comprehension about what we deem as “normal and acceptable.” Someone said or did something that we deem stupid, irrational, illogical or just plain “wrong.”

As a society and people, we need to understand some things that surround this statement and why it is ultimately unhelpful at best and psychologically harmful at worst. Continue reading

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About Kevin Hales

Kevin Hales, MA, LPC offers marriage counseling as well as individual counseling for adults and teens at Colorado Counseling Center. Kevin’s clients find that he wholeheartedly devotes himself to helping them heal and move forward in life. To learn more about Kevin's counseling specialties, please visit coloradocounselingcenter.com/kevin-hales/

How to Talk with Your Children About Anti-Semitism

How to Talk with Your Children About Anti-Semitism

by Sarah Miller

In light of the recent tragedy in Pittsburgh I have been reflecting on why this shooting, and this event, has impacted me more than others in the past. I have come to this conclusion: the world is a much scarier place now that I have a daughter living in it.

As someone who identifies as Jewish, anti-semitism has been a part of my story and experience. I have heard the jokes, seen the movies, and have directly been on the receiving end of anti-semitic remarks. I never considered the possibility that I would have a child go through similar experiences, and honestly, it terrifies me.

How do I explain to my daughter that there will be people in the world who hate her, solely because she exists? Because half of her is Jewish—the half I passed down to her.

I have come to the realization that these conversations are unavoidable because the history of our people is filled with times of adversity and challenges. However, they are also filled with stories of resilience and community. Continue reading