You probably know couples whose relationships have been damaged—or devastated—by infidelity. Some of you have been through this yourselves. Few things hurt worse than the betrayal of having your partner step outside of your marital commitment to each other. In our marriage counseling and couples therapy work, we often get asked, “How can we affair-proof our relationship?” In this two-minute video, Sue Johnson (the leading expert in couples therapy) offers timely wisdom addressing the question: “Can you affair proof your relationship?” Continue reading
Are you interested in bringing more happiness into your relationship? Successful couples and marriages share common practices that bring them greater strength, deeper joy, and more lasting love. Consider how you can bring these ten practices of happy couples into your own relationship: Continue reading
Here at Colorado Counseling Center, we work with a lot of couples who seek help with their relationships. With marital problems, certain topics tend to surface more than others—like sex, finances, parenting, division of labor within the home, etc. In reality, the actual topics don’t matter as much as how you resolve (or don’t resolve) these issues. This is what matters most in the grand scheme of things. Let me elaborate. Continue reading
Opportunities to Repair in Marriage
There are opportunities to exit from an argument with your partner before it becomes damaging to your relationship. Marital researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman has studied the difference between couples who are able to diffuse conflict and re-engage with each other and those who do not. He concludes that couples who have conflict and are able to re-connect in the midst of that conflict are able to navigate through the negativity and stay close. How do these couples do that? Continue reading
Having been married for a number of years now, my wife and I know that we have different preferences about how high the volume should be when we’re listening to the radio or watching something on television. In fact, it’s become a joke between us; she likes to make fun (in good humor) of me when I turn on the subtitles “for the hearing impaired” when we’re watching a movie together.
As common as this trivial struggle over the volume may be for couples, it also plays out on a much more important level: the struggle over the “emotional volume” in the relationship. When we’re not feeling understood or valued in our most important relationships, we tend to react by either: Continue reading