
If you’re here because pornography has quietly taken up more space than you want it to, or because a partner just found something and you’re both reeling, you’re not alone in this — and you’re not the first person to sit with this exact mix of shame and confusion.
You may have heard this called an addiction. You may have used that word yourself. Whether it fits or feels too heavy, what matters more to us than the label is what’s actually happening underneath it — the secrecy, the shame, the sense that something has more pull over you than you’d like, or the breach of trust that’s left you and your partner shaken. These patterns can be shaped by all kinds of things: stress, loneliness, old wounds, the way these platforms are built to keep you hooked, or simply where someone is in figuring out their own relationship to sexuality. Whatever brought you here, you don’t have to sort it out alone, and you don’t have to stay stuck in a feeling of shame.
You may have already tried to handle this on your own. Maybe you’ve tried to white-knuckle your way through this — deleting apps, making promises to yourself, swearing this time would be different, only to end up back where you started. Maybe you’ve leaned on an accountability app, a support group, or a trusted mentor, and found some of it helpful but still felt like something deeper wasn’t being addressed. If you’re the partner who found out, maybe you’ve tried talking it through on your own, checking in more than feels comfortable, or just trying to move past it — and found that the unease never actually settled. None of that means you’ve failed. It usually means the pattern needed more than willpower or vigilance to really shift.
Several of our therapists work with adults and couples navigating this — whether you’re trying to understand your own pattern or helping a partner heal after discovery.
How We Help
Taking the Next Step
Reaching out can feel like the hardest part — harder, sometimes, than anything that comes after. You don’t need the right words, a clear diagnosis, or even certainty about what you’re looking for. You just need a willingness to start the conversation.
What you share with us stays confidential, within the standard limits that apply to any therapy relationship. We want this to feel like a safe place to bring even the parts of your story that feel hardest to say out loud. If what you’re navigating turns out to be outside what we specialize in, we’ll help connect you with someone who’s the right fit.
Whether you’re coming in on your own or with a partner, we’ll meet you where you are and move at a pace that actually fits your situation.
Frequently Asked Questions About Pornography Addiction Therapy
Ready to Talk?
Schedule an appointment online, or call or text us at (720) 468-0101 — we typically respond within hours. Ask to meet with Kevin or Mary Claire, both of whom specialize in this work.
If problematic pornography use surfaced through a partner’s discovery, our post on the impact of virtual infidelity explores what that experience can feel like and how to begin the healing process.
